Thursday, March 13, 2008
Posted by:
Kevin McCullough
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11:32 AM
Yep!
Human sexuality is a tricky thing the bottom line, and I'm CONFIDENT that Dr. Laura believes it regardless of what this clip leads one to think, is that Spitzer's job is to keep his pants zipped. However, her overall principle is also TRUE. Men are simple, God designed us this way so that we could focus more easily on the big tasks of protection and provision for the families we are responsible for. Wanna keep a man happy, and engaged in a marriage - it's not rocket science: feed him, sleep with him and demonstrate genuine respect for his efforts. All snickering aside, if a woman does all three - it's nearly impossible for her man to even think about desiring another woman.
Did I miss something?
Did Mrs. Spitzer call the hooker and say, "Please go up to my husband's room. Here's the cash. Have fun!"
No, of course not.
NEWS FLASH: Gov. Sptizer is responsible for his own actions.
Typical of the con artist that is "Dr." Laura -- she has made a fortune by blaming the victim.
Of course, the good "Dr." abandoned her own Mother and left her old, sick, poor and vulnerable. Then, when the Mom was murdered, her grieving daughter blamed the dead woman for it.
She didn't take responsibility when she was spread-eagle all over the internet, it was the fault of some evil former boyfriend.
And when her son was accused of creating a my space page with grapic photos and extolling the use of drugs, "Dr." again blamed the big, bad media.
Great source for morality, Kevin!
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Dr. Laura had a Mother? I always presumed that she crawled out from under a rock, breathing fire, about 10,000 years ago.
I did hear about the son and the nude photos, but never about the Mother.
Never could stand that Holier-than-thou phoney. But, I do like Dr. Joy Browne.
BTW: Thanks, Kevin, for the prayers you offered up in my behalf earier in an earlier post. I appreciate it very much.
I am going to assume that, if you have the time to pray for the fleck of sawdust in my eye, that means that you have already removed the plank from yours? |
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Dear Kevin, Maybe this will help you understand what has happened in my life, maybe Silda Spitzer's life too. Peace.
Dear Dr. Laura:
I want you to know just how much hurt your recent comments have caused to me and likely to untold numbers of other women whose husbands have chosen to patronize prostitutes. Partners of such men often spend years searching their souls to find what they have done wrong or where they have been inadequate, in many cases only to find that their husbands simply have “needs” (actually “wants”) that have virtually nothing to do with the status of the relationship. I am a loving wife and mother of three children who made the decision to stay with my husband of 22 years in spite of his history of philandering with multiple mistresses and prostitutes (he has cleaned up his act in recent years). I stayed because I love my husband deeply and because I thought it was best for the well-being of our children. However, the pain of his many betrayals has cost me dearly in physical and emotional health. I trust in your good intentions and if you are willing to read my letter completely and with an open heart, perhaps you will see another perspective in this matter.
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Assuming that you are correct that Governor Spitzer’s needs were going unmet, this would almost certainly be a sign that there were difficulties in the marriage that ran in both directions. If he was not getting enough adoration to make him feel like a hero, she was likely not being treated as a goddess either. We all live with some lackluster periods of time as part of the normal ups and downs of a long-term marriage. Children, careers, busy lives; sometimes partners are better able to take care of each other (and themselves) than other times. Sometimes, of course, these issues need to be addressed directly. Perhaps honest discussion with his wife and marriage counseling would have been healthier approaches for Governor Spitzer to take than the course of lies and betrayal that he instead chose to “feed the parts of himself that were starving”.
I believe that it is vitally important to distinguish “needs” from “wants”. It turns out that it is not possible for a middle-aged woman to satisfy her husband’s perceived need for sex with a twenty-year-old woman, one whose body has not been permanently altered by carrying and nourishing his own children. Nor (as I found) is it possible for a white woman to satisfy her husband’s apparently urgent curiosity about sex with Asian and/or black women, let alone his “need” for variety for its own sake in the form of multiple partners. Let’s be clear. These are wants, not needs. God knows that I have occasionally wanted all kinds of things during my marriage, including the thrill and ego booster of taking somebody new into my bed. But I have forgone these wants in order to strive for something so much deeper and more important – a true and unbroken bond with my life partner.
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I have a theory that may sound hopelessly quaint. It is different from your idea that the woman is somehow always responsible, but equally old-fashioned. Perhaps, just maybe, a person (man or woman) who is unable to distinguish his or her needs from wants, or who is unwilling to put reasonable constraints on the latter is simply not a good candidate for the institution of marriage. That type of individual has the option to remain single (or revert to being single) and have a blast. Gone are the days when people had to get married in order to be viewed as respectable citizens, even in the political arena. Of course, a traditional home with spouse and children is still a great asset to a political career. And no doubt, Governor Spitzer wanted that. Trouble is that he, like so many men, wanted it all – the picture-perfect wife and family plus a secret life involving sex with women only marginally older than his daughters.
In the Spitzer case (and in my husband’s, by the way) there are those other tremendously ugly factors, namely power and money. There is that certain type of man who believes that everything is a commodity, that there is nothing that cannot be bought and sold. You know this guy. Either literally or figuratively, he saunters up to the owner of a desired car, house, woman, what have you, and asks “How much?” When told that the item is not for sale, he smiles suavely, whips out his check book, states that every man has his price, and asks again how much the item will set him back. Apparently, whether or not he was being treated as a hero at home, Governor Spitzer needed to feel like an “emperor” in his private world.
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It is difficult for some to believe that there are those who cheat even when their partners behave in a loving, kind, and attentive manner. I must assume from your comments that you have never had your heart broken and soul crushed in this particular manner. And for that I am glad, because I would not wish it on anybody. It takes years for the damage to even begin to heal from this kind of betrayal. One can only guess how much deeper the pain and humiliation run when the marital drama is broadcast internationally. Silda Wall Spitzer is a beautiful and accomplished woman and I have no reason to believe that she has been anything less than a loving and supportive wife. My hope is that she gets what she needs right now. Her needs at this moment are very real and they are so much more complex than a 20-year-old hooker.
I wish you peace.
Sincerely,
Anonymous (for his sake not for mine)
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